What is True Love ??

 

"While leaving office with my colleague, we began talking, and he told me that he needed to visit the ashram to have dinner with his wife. She had been there for a while, a victim of Alzheimer's disease. I asked him if his wife would be worried if he was a bit late, whereupon he replied that due to her loss of memory she no longer knew who he was, nor had she recognized him in five years. I was surprised and asked him: 'And you still go every day?' I had to hold back tears when he smiled, patted my hand and said: 'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'

I realized that true love is neither physical nor romantic. " True love is an acceptance of all that is, that has been, that will or even will not be."

Benefits of a Healthy Marriage for Men

Researchers have found many benefits for men who are in healthy marriages, compared to unhealthy marriages, including the following statistics:

• Live longer
• Physically healthier
• Wealthier
• Increase in the stability of employment
• Higher wages
• Emotionally healthier
• Decrease risk of drug and alcohol abuse
• Have better relationships with their children
• More satisfying sexual relationship
• Less likely to commit violent crimes
• Less likely to contract STD's
• Less likely to attempt or commit suicide

How to choose best gift for your Love

When you want to give a gift to your loved one, you will simply pick it from the shelves of the store.

All gifts are meant to please the recipients who are supposed to value what they get. In order for your gift to achieve these two specific qualities, you are not going to just pick something out of the stores and present it to your friend. In fact it might not please the person at all. So find the ways by which you can add some warmth and value to your gift before presenting it. Here are some bright ideas.

Pictures with the gift: This is one method of including the old pictures that carry fond memories of shared time together. This will make the person know that you still cherish the times you spent in the past. It is best to unearth the oldest pictures for this purpose.

How to Keep the Love Alive in Long Distance Relationships ??

9 Tips for Managing Long Distance Relationships

Are you and your loved one separated by distance right now? It can be a challenge to keep the love alive, even if the time spent away isn't long. Try some of these tips for long distance relationships to let your sweetie know just how much you care.

1. "Watch" a romantic movie together by renting the same flick at the same time. The two of you can discuss the film later by phone, email, or the next time you see each other in person.
2. Send each other loving gifts appropriate for a long distance relationship, like taking out an ad in the local-to-them newspaper to express your love, learning how to take erotic photos of yourself and then emailing the results, or ordering a romantic dinner for them to be delivered to their home.
3. Write a love letter to say I love you.
4. Send as many ecards (Buy Direct) and physical cards (Buy Direct) as you can afford to let your partner know they are always on your mind.
5. Send romantic text messages to keep the love alive.

Thngs to do when you're bored

THINGS YOU CAN DO WITH ABSOLUTELY NOTHING

Blink wildly and then close your eyes really tight for an interesting light show
(Amusement Potential: 1-5 minutes)
See a variety of blobs, stars and flashes. Try to make out shapes and see if your subconscious is trying to send you a message (perhaps that funny shape is saying, 'send all your money Narendra :))

See how long you can hold a note
(Amusement Potential: 4-20 minutes)
Not that much fun, but it sure passes the time. Play with a friend, or try to beat your own personal best. Inhale deeply and then try and make a noise for as long as you can. Earn extra points for making your partner laugh or ending on an amusing note.

Try to not think about penguins
(Amusement Potential: 1-5 minutes)
This is especially hard, because by trying too much, you remember what you were trying to avoid thinking of. If you try too little, you end up thinking about penguins anyway.

Use your secret mind power
(Amusement Potential: 5-10 minutes)
Pick a passing by and try to use your mind power to command them do something, like drop their bag or knock into someone. The law of averages dictates that sooner or later one of your mind commands will come true, so you can convince yourself that you really have super human powers and waste even more time trying them out.

Creating hyperlink on Applet List Column

Did you ever tried creating an hyperlink on applet list column...Not..then here it is.I have tried it for one of my business requirement and it works fine.

You can try doing this

   1. Create a calculated field, calc value --> "[url=http://www.url.com]www.url.com[/url]" + [BC field]
   2. In applet for list column corresponding this calc field

1) Set List column attribute --> HTML Type select value as "URL"
2) Set List Column attribute --> HTML Attribute value as target='_blank'
3) Compile and test.

How To Win A Girl’s Heart

Ways To Win A Girl’s Heart

• To begin with, you have to be sure that the girl is remotely interested in you. If she still does not know you, you should take the time to make a good first impression. To do so, you have to dress respectfully but in a casual manner. Otherwise, she would get a feeling that you are a very serious and boring person. It would be good to be clean-shaven and free from body odors when you approach her, as the first thing a woman looks for in a man is a person who is well-groomed.
• In all likeliness, she may be a girl you are vaguely acquainted with, use your common connections to start a conversation with her. When approaching her, approach her from the side and not head-on, as you do not want to seem threatening or confrontational. Start the conversation lightly, use humor if you think you are humorous, but make sure that your humor is ‘clean’ and harmless.
• If you get her talking to you, it’s a good sign and means she’s taking notice. To signify your intentions, be subtle with your ways and don’t jump the gun yet. Try to be her good friend first, as a woman will want her man to also be someone who understands her true emotions.

How To Ask A Girl Out

How to Ask a Girl Out 

• Before asking her out, get to know about her. Talk to your mutual friends about what she likes and what she doesn’t like, what are her hobbies, which things interest her, etc. This will not only help you know how and where to ask her out, but also make you sure that she is the right person for you.
• Be properly dressed when you plan to ask her out. Growing stubble and un-ironed clothes are a strict no-no. At the same time, don’t over do it and turn up in a formal attire altogether. You definitely need to look neat and tidy, but not something you are not. Blue jeans and a white shirt will also work just fine.
• Smell good, be it your breath or your body odor. However, please do not soak yourself in cologne. Remember, moderation is the key here.
• Approach her the way you do rest of your friends. Exchange the usual pleasantries and try to strike up a normal conversation. Be totally confident of yourself and at ease. The slightest of nervousness on your part can make her uncomfortable too.

Cute Things To Say To A Girl

Romantic Things To Tell A Girl

• I looked up at the night sky, it was clear and a million stars shone bright. I began to give each star a reason on why I love you, but then, I just ran out of stars.
• With you I never wonder - will you be there for me when the going gets tough. With you I never wonder - if you are the right one for me. I have finally found the love of a lifetime, a love that has what it takes to last a whole life through! Forever in my heart, I have finally found the love of a lifetime!
• If you held eleven roses close to your heart and then looked into the mirror, right there, you would be looking at twelve of the most beautiful things in this wonderful world.
• Sleepy time when I lie with you, my love, by my side and you are breathing low. I rise like a bird into the haze that is the skies, slowly and steadily the night winds die!
  
  

How To Get Back The Girl You Love

Nothing can be more shocking when the girl you are digging for pulls the plug at you and leaves you wondering why. After all the great chemistry, all the fun and the good times that you shared, it’s quite unlikely that a relationship that seemed destined for marriage went kaput. However, before you hit the break-up slump, know that no man is immune to heartbreaks, and it is quite okay for normal dudes to feel the pinch after their love has left for good. If you have been run down by the dump truck of late, but can’t get over the girl you loved, then maybe it is time you got on with the mission of wooing her back. Instead of hiding your tender feelings behind your male ego and losing on your girl forever, it is better if you nursed your wounded ego and went out to court your love and get her back into your life again. Go through the following section on how to get the girl you love back and pick your inspiration. After all, we don’t really let the ones we love go away this easily, isn’t it?

Ways To Win Back The Girl You Love 

• Well, just because she did the cardinal sin of showing you the door first doesn’t have to mean that you cannot woo her back. If you badly want to dial her digits or send an IM, just go for it, sans any qualms. After all, you can not really sit back and wait for an eternity for her to call you back. It may be that she is too heartbroken, shy or has too many suitors stalking her. Just grab the phone and get dialing. However, before you get buzzing, just pause a while and consider if it is a will or just a whim. Most men tend to equate their longings with love. Once you are double sure that you want her back, you can resolutely continue with your operation woo her back mission.
• If you really want her back in your life, you have to get hold of your roving eyes and stop hunting down a chase at every pub, bistro, bar and everywhere else. Agreed, it may be tempting for you to seek comfort in some other girl, but doing so might push her further away into the arms of some other man. So date with care!

How To Show A Girl You Love Her

It is always difficult to show your deepest feelings when it comes to your loved ones, and if it is a girl that you love, it becomes even more intricate. Undoubtedly, a simple ‘I love you’ can flatter a girl in many cases, but it may not be the same with every girl. Every woman likes surprises, and what is better than surprising her with a love note. Nonetheless, those three magical words have no significance if you don’t do things that corroborate your words as it is well said that ‘Action speaks louder than words’. Scroll down to find ways that can show the depth of your love for her.

How to Express Your Love to a Girl

Don’t Say It; Show It - A straightforward approach is the best one, though it won’t help much unless it is reflected in your actions. Helping her with small things will show that you really care for her. At this point of time, don’t give hints deliberately, she might not be ready for this and find it vile or contemptible.

Keep It Real - Evaluate and reevaluate your feelings for her. It might be an infatuation or a natural attachment with a friend that you have mistaken for love. Before uttering something sweet and beautiful to her, be sure of your feelings. Don’t try to fool her with emotional one liner.

Go Slowly - Don’t forget the golden rule of patience. Before going for something big, strengthen your basic relation that is your friendship. You can’t love some body, you don’t respect or care for. Show your care and respect her feelings by supporting her in the toughest of the time. This will establish a bond between the two of you.

11 Secrets Men Don't Know About Women

1. Women don't like explosions, in art or in life.
2. Women aren't as funny as men. We're often cleverer, frequently wittier, but to be really funny demands a certain clownishness that our grace just does not allow. It's fine, really it is.
3. We grow pathetic goatees and look awful in cargo shorts anyway.
4. Women are aware of about 10 percent of the things men actually think and say about us. Best to keep it under five.
5. Women love to be taken out to eat. It makes our day.

3 Things That Only Feel Like Love

Love is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like love but they are much too superficial to be the real thing. Real love takes time and doesn't happen over night. Here are three things that people often confuse for love.

Lust

Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for love at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody you hardly know. It is mistaken for love because the attraction is so strong.
Lust can feel like love because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up by lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To love somebody you must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a fantasy of what might be and reality can get lost in the excitement.
Overwhelmed by physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on by passionate attraction. If you are inexperienced in matters of the heart it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love.
Lust differs from love like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the fantasy and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.

Deciding What to Do if You Find Yourself in Love with Someone Other than Your Spouse

Sam, a man of twenty-eight who had been married six years and had two children, found himself in just this situation. His secretary was an unusually attractive girl of twenty-four. Neither of them had thought of love at first, although they had "clicked" remarkably well from the start. As time went on, they found that they had similar interests, standards, tastes, and ideals. Suddenly they realized that without any intent from either party, they were in love with each other. Before they did anything drastic, they went to a consultant and laid their problem before him.

The first task of the consultant was to point out that the situation was not unusual. Sam had also loved several other people. His list included his wife, his mother, a sister, a minister to whom he was greatly attached, and two other men with whom he fished for a week each year. Love certainly does not necessarily require a sexual expression. Sam's love for his secretary was not essentially different from his love for any of the others, except that it had the additional element of sexual attraction. This could complicate it seriously, but did not need to. It was Sam's wife who had borne his children, and with whom he was building his family, not his secretary. This fact gave to Sam and his wife a unique relationship, quite different from that with any of the others whom Sam loved. Therefore it would be better if Sam would restrict his physical intimacies to his wife.

Maintaining A Strong Relationship

Every relationship is unique, complex and multi-dimensional, and every person has his own way of understanding and feeling if a relationship is or is not right for him. Most of us want to fall in love, be in love and stay in love forever. We want just to put ourselves to the hands of the loved one in the hope that the relationship will provide all our happiness. We even think that our partner is supposed to know exactly what, when and how to provide this happiness. But good relationships do not happen out of nowhere, automatically, and are based on caring and giving rather then by a need. We all must be prepared to give to the other and not just concentrate on what it is that we need and what is important only for us.
The beauty and essence of a good relationship is when you feel completely comfortable with the other part. A relationship can be a great way to have fun and create a special bond, as well as learn a lot about yourself and the one you care for. Good relationship makes you laugh, it makes you feel safe and supported, and what is most important - very happy.

WHY Marriage ?

Purpose: Your marriage is your most valuable asset. It is a place for love, children, and success and happiness: a pearl of great price. If it is your pearl of great price, then you will do everything necessary to preserve it. Polish your pearl!
The Lesson:

"There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage" —Martin Luther

"With this ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly good I thee endow." —Wedding Vow, Book of Common Prayer
"Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated; often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing any one who comes between them." —Sydney Smith
"I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell this to my children they just about throw up." —Barbara Bush, first lady,

Narendra Meka,
+91-8897979357,
Hyderabad.

Should I reveal to my husband events from my past, even though I believe he could never find out about them?

Question: Should I reveal to my husband events from my past, even though I believe he could never find out about them?

There is a threefold test I share with people who ask if they should tell their spouses either about their distant past, or about things that they’ve done since their marriages began. Most often the question comes from people who’ve had an affair, but the same test works well for deciding whether to share any secret you’re keeping from your mate.
First, is there any way he can find out? If so, he needs to hear it from you first. If you think your mate is going to react badly upon learning your secret, be assured that the reaction will be much worse if he finds out from anyone other than you. If there’s even the slightest chance he might discover your secret, you’re better off to tell him rather than to wait in miserable anticipation that the revelation may come from someone else.
Second, has he ever asked and you responded with a lie? If so, you need to get that lie off the table and tell the truth. As long as you know you’ve deceived him, you’ll never reach the level of trust that makes a great marriage. You’ll always know that a part of your relationship is based on fabrication rather than reality. Because of that, you will never feel genuine closeness as long as that lie lives.

The Idea behind Hindu Marriage

The Idea of Marriage

The idea behind the institution of marriage in Hinduism is to foster, not self-interest, but love for the entire family. Practice of self-restraint is the ideal of marriage in Hinduism. It is the love and duty cultivated for the entire family that prevents the break-ups.

Men by nature are less capable of self-restraint than women. That is why, after marriage the Hindu women lead the men by keeping the lustful propensities under control. While married, thought of any other man does not enter the mind of a Hindu lady until she loses her faith in her husband due to his consistent misbehavior and 'don't care' attitude.

Arranged Marriages in INDIA

Arranged marriages have the tradition in Indian society for centuries. Even today overwhelming majority of Indians in India have their marriages planned by their parents and other respected family-members, with the consent of the bride and groom . Arranged matches were made after taking into account factors such as age, height, personal values and tastes, the backgrounds of their families (wealth, social standing) and their castes and the astrological compatibility of the couples' horoscopes.

The institution of marriage in India is considered a very important one. In general both the parents and the young people feel that since hello they were older and wiser than their progeny, they would be able to find a suitable match for their children with more prudence than the latter. Although most marriages are arranged, some couples in India are opting for love marriage in urban areas. Among the overseas Indians, many marriages are still arranged with the assistance of the parents. Even the so called love marriages in India generally happen with the approval of the parents, although their blessing may sometimes be reluctant.

In India, the marriage is thought to be for life, and the divorce rate is extremely low, 1.1% compared with about 50% for USA. The arranged marriages generally have a much lower divorce rate. The divorce rates have risen significantly in recent years:

"Opinion is divided over what the phenomenon means: for traditionalists the rising numbers portend the breakdown of society while, for some modernists, they speak of a healthy new empowerment for women."